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Do You Have Any Regrets?

 

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One of the few good things to come from this miserable, horrible, terrible winter this year was I caught up on some reading. Of the books I read this winter, by far The Top Five Regrets of the Dying – A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware, a nurse who aids the dying, was the best.

I have had the book sitting around my house for a few years but never had time to read it. Actually, I think it was more I did not want to read or even think about it.

But once I began to read it I could not put it down staying up way late into the wee morning hours. The only other book I could not put down like this was Ernest Hemingway’s The Old Man and the Sea, which I read in one sitting.

What are the top five regrets of the dying?

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1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

 

What Is the Secret To Living With No Regrets?

K37-317508How can you live a life of no regrets?

Now I am certainly no expert. However, I think the first way is… well…. to simply to live with no regrets.

I live with no regrets no matter what I do. I do the best I can. Some times I mess up. I am human. I will make mistakes. I try to correct them as I go along. I am not afraid to say, ‘I am sorry,’ when I do make a mistake.

I am true to myself yet I try not to hurt others at the same time. The Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have then do unto you.”  I take other’s feelings unto account before I act.

I think happiness is important too.

I try to be happy too. Happiness I have learned is less what happens to me than how I react to people, events, and life itself.

It is my attitude that determines if I am happy. No one person can make me happy nor can any group of people. And when down times come, I know they will not last forever. It is just getting through it with the help of friends.

1 humanI don’t expect every one to like me. I am not everyone’s cup of tea. So I hang around with folk who do like me. Nothing makes me happier than being with people who like me.  And funny thing this; I like the people who like me.

I have fun and laugh a lot. I believe life is to be enjoyed. Enough sorrow and hurt comes all by itself. I don’t have to go it and look for more. I surround myself with happy people and people who make me laugh. They are a support during the bad times.

I also try to smile a lot. I read some where that just the act of smiling can make you happy. When I am down or sad I just smile. You know…..It works. It really does. Just try it some time when you are down.

I try not to judge other people. I don’t know what they are experiencing or what has happened to them. I owe that consideration to others.

I stand up for myself and do not allow others to mistreat me. I cannot have respect for others if I first do not have respect for myself.

So far so good. I have no regrets at this time.

How do you live so you have no regrets?

Featured Recipe        Roberta’s Gourmet Sloppy Joe’s

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The very first meal I ever cooked as a child was Sloppy Joe’s.

I learned and first helped to make Sloppy Joe’s with my Girl Scout troop when I was in fourth grade. I jut had to make it for my family.

Of course my two brothers pretended to die when they bit into the sandwich that night. But I just ignored them. They never did have any taste or class!

I loved cooking even back then and since my mother worked part time I helped her out in the kitchen.

Today’s recipe is not the same Sloppy Joe recipe I made way back when. I don’t remember that recipe any more. But I do know it had ketchup in it.

No ketchup in today’s recipe. I play with this recipe all the time. It is a recipe in progress.

This is a sweet tasting dish. If you want to make it less sweet add a tablespoon or so of white wine. If you want hot add red pepper and cilantro in place of the parsley.

It is quick and easy too.  Sounds like a near perfect dinner for nights when you have no time to cook.

This is what you will need for about 8 large sandwiches:

1 pound ground chuck

1 tablespoon olive oil

1 small red onion minced

2 garlic cloves pressed

1- 28 ounce can crushed tomatoes with juices

3 tablespoons dark brown sugar

2 teaspoons Worcestershire sauce

A pinch of dried mustard

1 teaspoon white vinegar

1-2 tablespoons parsley chopped

Salt and pepper to taste

6 hamburger buns

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Here is what you do:

Mince the onion, press the garlic, and chop the parsley.

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Brown the ground chuck over medium heat.

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If there is too much grease remove it leaving about 1 tablespoon in the pan.

NOTE: I just use a food baster to suck up the excess grease. Then I empty it in a small bowl until it cools. Then I put it in a waste plastic pan (like sherbet ice cream comes in.)  I keep in my freezer till full. When it is full I dispose of it.

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Add the olive oil to the pan and heat.

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Mix the oil into the meat. Then add in the onion, garlic, salt and pepper and sauté for a minute or two. DIVINE AROMA ALERT!  I love the aroma of sautéing onion and garlic.

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Add the tomatoes and their juices along with everything else EXCEPT the parsley and simmer for 2-3 minutes.

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Toast the buns now if so desired.

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Remove the Sloppy Joe’s from the heat and stir in the parsley.

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Spoon the mixture onto a bun. Serve with a salad and/or celery and carrot sticks or some fruit.

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Bon appétit!!!
Cost

1 pound ground chuck                      $3.19 [on sale]

1 tablespoon olive oil                        $0.12

1 small red onion minced                  $1.11

2 garlic cloves pressed                     $0.10

1- 28 oz can crushed tomatoes         $1.99

3 tablespoons dark brown sugar       $0.14

2 tspns Worcestershire sauce           $0.03

A pinch of dried mustard                  $0.03

1 teaspoon white vinegar                 $0.04

1-2 tbspn parsley chopped               $0.10

Salt and pepper to taste                  ——

8 hamburger buns                          $1.50

Total cost = $8.35
Cost per sandwich = $1.04

Quote of the Day

You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,
Love like you’ll never be hurt,
Sing like there’s nobody listening,
And live like it’s heaven on earth.

William W. Purkey

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6 comments to Do You Have Any Regrets?

  • Up until a month ago, I would have said I was 5 out of 5 on that list. I made some major changes and I’ve put myself if not first, darned close to it for the first time in my life. It feels pretty good.

    A good sloppy joe is a thing of beauty. 🙂

    • Roberta

      Glad to hear you are taking care of your self too. I always remember the air flight attendant speech before take off:

      “If there is a lack of oxygen, oxygen masks will fall overhead. When putting on the mask, please put the strap around your head tightening the straps on the sides. Please put yours on before helping another passenger.” Emphasis mine because you can’t help some one else if you pass out. Lesson I take from that take care of yourself.

  • Nice recipe. It’s like my sloppy beans recipe – from my vegetarian days. I don’t have regrets, rather I have learning experiences. If I had some of these experiences to do over again I’d do a few things differently. But I always remember whatever happens to us, and how we respond, makes us who we are.

    • Roberta

      Very well said, Julia. ‘Learning experiences,’ is a great phrase. Yes, each learning experience makes us smarter, stronger and wiser.

  • At most of the forks in the road of my life, either by accident or design, I took “the road less travelled”.

    It has been an extraordinary life for which I have few regrets, however with hindsight, I wish I had spent less time working or away on military call up when my boys were young.

    They seem to have turned out quite well in spite of it and perhaps because of other things I did get right, so I don’t dwell on it.

    If I were to look hard enough, I could find other things that with the benefit of experience, I could have done better, but that’s probably true of most people so again I don’t let it worry me.

    • Roberta

      That last sentence sums it up best. We can’t change the past. All we can do is try to do better now.